Five Stress-Relieving Tips for Your Wedding Day
The day of the wedding can be an extremely stressful day full of conflict and disappointment. The good news is that it does not have to go that way! There are some very simple things that you can do before and during your big day to ensure that things go smoothly for you and for those you love. With a little bit of effort, you can save yourself a whole lot of heartache, and enjoy the day to its fullest.
Have a plan and rehearse it
Do not go into your wedding day blind. Hopefully, some of your venders will encourage you to have some sort of process for your big day, but we have all seen cases in which no one showed up prepared. You do not want this to be you. You need to know what is going to happen during the day, when each of these things will happen, and who will be involved. And you need to go over it with the rest of the wedding party, which is what the rehearsal is for.
Prior to the wedding, everyone needs to show up at the venue to go over what will occur before, during, and after the ceremony. The most important benefit of this rehearsal is that it will relieve you of the anxiety about whether or not everyone is where they need to be the day of the wedding. Trying to give the best man directions over the phone 5 minutes before the ceremony is not going to set the right mood. Save yourself the anxiety: Make a plan and rehearse it.
Make a schedule for everyone
In other words, write the plan down and make sure everyone has a copy. And I do mean everyone: Bride, groom, maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsman, flower girl, ring bearer, parents, planners, photographers, officiant, and other venders and important guests. Everyone is going to have a thousand questions the day of the wedding, and this will answer a lot of them. You do not want to be squeezing into your wedding dress while a hundred people knock on the door. Your anxious party members and important guests will be a lot calmer if they have written directions in their hands that tell them what to do with their body on the day of the wedding.
Call in your people
If you want your wedding day to go smoothly, you need to find other people in your life who ALSO want your wedding day to go smoothly. Hopefully, these people are your closest friends and family, your partner, or at the very least someone you know who really really loves weddings. But unfortunately, this may not be the people closest to you. You may need to shell out some cash for a day-of planner or a bridesmaid-for-hire. Because it’s worth it. You need people who are ready to step up to the plate on your big day. It’s hard to hang up last minute decorations in your wedding dress, and it’s even harder to keep people out of your own dressing room while you unwind before the ceremony. You are going to need support. Ask for it.
Allow for plenty of time
Something will go wrong on the day of your wedding. It will be something minor, but you need to plan on it. Schedule in time on the big day to deal with crises and make corrections. If you expect it to happen, you won’t freak out when it does. And after the problem has been addressed, there needs to be enough time for you to unwind. This is a special day, and you do not want to run from finding grandma right down to the alter. You need time to recover from corrections so that you can be present and enjoy each priceless moment.
Ignore what you want to ignore
As I previously mentioned, something will go wrong on the day of your wedding. But not all of these things are worth your attention. Pick the things that matter, and forget the other stuff. One of the bridesmaids has a frayed hem? Forget it. Not all the table decorations look the same? No one cares. Pick your battles! This day has a very specific purpose. Do not get caught up in all the details and let it ruin what the whole thing is about.
This applies to people, as well. Not every single one of your attendees’ concerns are worth the same amount of your time. There will be people who try to make their problems your own on your big day. Do not accept them. It is not your problem that Great Aunt Sally does not like the cake or your shoes. You have enough to deal with. Allow your guests to handle their own stuff. Spend your time focusing on the things that are important to you.
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